“I’m fine” can be the biggest lie we tell. Sometimes we say it to avoid burdening others, or because we don’t know how to explain what we’re feeling

What about you?

@Lavender ...

Ah...can't stand the question," How are you?"

People ( most) it's just a thing people say...they don't really want to know.

I have, of late, been unable to brightly answer," I'm OK., Or even, " Good!"...

Now I just gesture with my hand, and say," So-so."

And I know I am alienating a lot of people.

I want to live in a world where people are what I strive to be-authentic...

But, I find that is rare...and I hate myself when I lie...but then I am also.at risk of purging my whole life story on people...with social anxiety and CPTSD making it hard to trust people this makeslittle sense...

But.. such is my uncontrollable need for others to HEAR me...and sometimes I am fortunate enough to encounter an understanding and listening ear and that's enough...

No shame in being authentic,and especially if not being so does not go along wirh your values like me, at the sane time it can be so scary, can't it,?

6 minutes ago, Autumn75 said:

@Lavender ...

Ah...can't stand the question," How are you?"

People ( most) it's just a thing people say...they don't really want to know.

I have, of late, been unable to brightly answer," I'm OK., Or even, " Good!"...

Now I just gesture with my hand, and say," So-so."

And I know I am alienating a lot of people.

I want to live in a world where people are what I strive to be-authentic...

But, I find that is rare...and I hate myself when I lie...but then I am also.at risk of purging my whole life story on people...with social anxiety and CPTSD making it hard to trust people this makeslittle sense...

But.. such is my uncontrollable need for others to HEAR me...and sometimes I am fortunate enough to encounter an understanding and listening ear and that's enough...

No shame in being authentic,and especially if not being so does not go along wirh your values like me, at the sane time it can be so scary, can't it,?

I think with I always put on a front. my therapist always says that I should let people in. I just don't like the fuss. I know it's silly but I have always been like this.

2 minutes ago, Lavender said:

I think with I always put on a front. my therapist always says that I should let people in. I just don't like the fuss. I know it's silly but I have always been like this.

It isn't silly at all.

Please have some compassion for yourself.

It certainly is a long ingrained learned response to what others expect, and trust, knowing whom might be that empathetic ear cam be hard to diacren in unpredictable humans...

I just don't want you to feel alone...🩷