About Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD),

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is often misunderstood. While media portrays it as vanity or arrogance, the reality is more complex — involving deep emotional struggles, fear of vulnerability, and unstable self-worth. People living with or affected by narcissistic traits often feel confused, hurt, or overwhelmed..

What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

NPD is a personality disorder defined by:

• A pattern of grandiosity (in behavior or fantasy)

• An intense need for admiration

• Lack of consistent empathy for others

These patterns can deeply affect relationships, self-perception, and emotional regulation. While some individuals with NPD appear confident or even superior, this can often mask deep insecurity and emotional pain.

Common Signs and Symptoms of NPD

• Exaggerating achievements and talents

• Believing they are “special” or unique

• Requiring constant admiration

• Having difficulty recognising others' needs or feelings

• Feeling entitled to special treatment

• Reacting with rage or coldness to perceived criticism

• Manipulative or controlling behaviour in relationships

It’s important to remember that NPD exists on a spectrum. Not everyone who shows narcissistic traits has a disorder — and not everyone with NPD is abusive.

What Causes NPD?

There’s no single cause, but it may result from:

• Childhood neglect or excessive criticism

• Unrealistic praise or overvaluation during early development

• Emotional trauma, abuse, or unstable attachments

• Biological and genetic factors

The disorder is often a defence mechanism a way to protect a fragile inner self from feelings of shame, inadequacy, or unworthiness.

NPD in Relationships

Being in a relationship with someone who has NPD can be incredibly challenging. Common dynamics include:

• Idealization and devaluation: Intense praise followed by emotional withdrawal

• Gaslighting: Making others doubt their own reality

• Control and manipulation

• Difficulty apologising or accepting responsibility

However, not everyone with NPD is intentionally harmful. Many genuinely want connection but struggle to sustain it.

Can People with NPD Heal?

Yes but it requires willingness, insight, and long-term therapy. While change can be slow, people with NPD can learn to:

• Develop self-awareness

• Build emotional empathy

• Form more authentic, respectful relationships

• Cope with underlying shame and vulnerability

Therapy approaches may include:

• Psychodynamic therapy

• Schema therapy

• Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for self-image work

Some may not recognise their patterns, making treatment more complex but healing is possible, especially when the individual is motivated and supported.

Support for Those Affected by NPD

If you’ve been affected by someone with NPD (a partner, parent, boss, or friend), your feelings are valid. Living with emotional unpredictability, blame, or invalidation can be traumatic.

You deserve:

• Validation

• Boundaries

• Healing from emotional harm

Resources like therapy, support groups, and community forums (like ours!) can make a difference.